BIPOC & LGBTQ+ Affirming Relationship Therapy: Healing the Roots of Connection
By the time we enter long-term relationships—whether in couples, throuples, or polycules—we don’t arrive alone. We bring the "baggage" of broken promises, childhood wounds, and the weight of systemic oppression. For many, our past dictates our present.
For those navigating intergenerational trauma, addiction, or the stressors of being a person of color in a marginalized body, the act of connecting can feel unsafe. At Roots, Seeds, and Branches, I provide a dedicated, inclusive space for:
BIPOC & Black-bodied individuals seeking culturally responsive care.
LGBTQ+ folks and gender-expansive partners.
Ethically Non-Monogamous (ENM) structures, including throuples and polycules.
Sex workers and survivors of trauma in recovery.
Our Approach: Intimacy from the Inside Out (IFIO)
I specialize in Intimacy from the Inside Out (IFIO), an evidence-based relationship therapy model rooted in Internal Family Systems (IFS). While traditional therapy often relies on surface-level communication "hacks," IFIO builds internal secure attachment first.
I help you move away from reactive "protector" patterns and toward a calm, compassionate "Self" state. Whether you are navigating a monogamous couple or throuple or a complex polycule, we help you heal from the inside out.
The Core Components of IFIO (An IFS-Based Relationship Therapy)
Accessing the "Self": Connect with your calm, curious core to understand your protective parts (Managers/Firefighters) and heal your vulnerable "Exiles."
Inside-Out Transformation: We prioritize individual internal healing to naturally strengthen the connection between partners.
Tracking the "Dance": We identify the repetitive, painful interaction patterns (the "dance of the protectors") that keep your relationship stuck.
Non-Pathologizing Care: We view your behaviors not as "disorders," but as protective parts of you trying to keep you safe in an unsafe world.
Inclusive Therapy for POC, Polycules, & Couples: Healing for Every Connection
Our work together goes beyond surviving conflict; it is about thriving in intimacy across all your dynamics. I specialize in culturally responsive, poly-affirming care that transforms "protective" reactions into "connected" responses. Whether you are navigating a couple or throuple dynamic, managing a complex polycule, or strengthening a partnership, I provide the tools for lasting relational healing.
Our Framework: IFS for Diverse Relationships
I utilize Internal Family Systems (IFS) tailored for marginalized identities and non-traditional structures:
Unblending: Separating from reactive "parts" shaped by systemic trauma or past heartbreak so you can lead with clarity.
Relational Self-Leadership: Using "Self" energy to foster safety and de-escalate reactivity within your polycule or partnership.
Courageous Communication: Moving past "policing" behaviors to share vulnerable needs without attacking or defending.
Repairing Ruptures: Using the IFS model to heal moments of disconnection and rebuild trust after betrayal or boundary crossings.
What to Expect: The 3 Phases of Your Healing Journey
Intake & Cultural Mapping: I define your collective goals, explore family-of-origin trauma, and identify how systemic oppression impacts your unique conflict patterns.
The Working Phase: A blend of individual "inner work" (unburdening parts) and interpersonal relational work designed for throuples and polyamorous systems.
Integration: Healing past ruptures and building a future defined by secure, authentic communication and shared joy.
Breaking the Patterns of Generational Trauma
Whether you are navigating infidelity, power imbalances, or "pursuer/distancer" dynamics, I help you uncover the root causes. Our approach is rooted in decolonizing therapy—teaching you to set boundaries, honor your intuition, and practice "Self-leadership" without self-betrayal.
I support all relationship styles, including:
Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM) & Polyamory
Interracial and BIPOC Partnerships
Throuples & Plural Relational Systems
Monogamous Couples seeking deeper intimacy
My Mission: To help you create expansive, loving relationships, reclaim your inner power, and move toward genuine intimacy.